Leaving an abuser can be the most important and the most dangerous and difficult thing you'll ever do. If you plan to, or have left a violent relationship or marriage, please reach out to an advocate. An advocate will never make demands or shame you, but will help you understand your options and the available resources.  Advocates can also help survivors of sexual assault get timely emotional, medical and trauma support, access services as desired (both medical and legal) and understand all the options.